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Pemanduan Defensif dan Miskin Akhlaq II

Dua bulan lepas saya ada menulis mengenai ’MISKIN AKHLAQ’ di kalangan orang kita. Sedih hati bila perkara yang mudah orang kita tidak mampu melaksanakannya mungkin disebabkan hubungan dengan Allah rapuh, ego dan jiwa gersang.

Saya pasti anda pernah dengar pemanduan defensif. Ianya tidaklah susah tetapi memerlukan kecerdikan emosi dan sifat tolak ansur di jalanraya. Perasaan kita yang tenang dan santai ketika memandu di Tanah Melayu tercinta ini, kadang-kadang digugat oleh insan hipokrit yang miskin akhlaq di jalanraya.

Ketika memandu pulang dari pejabat petang tadi saya sedikit alpa. Mungkin banyak perkara difikirkan. Lampu isyarat hijau tidak saya sedari sehingga menyebabkan sebuah kereta Perdana Hitam (juga bercermin hitam gelap) menghon saya. Ianya tidak berakhir disitu. Kereta berkenaan dengan rakusnya memotong kereta saya dengan membunyikan hon, menghimpit saya, menekan brek dan memperlahankan kenderaan beliau di depan saya. Saya tidak pasti mengapa mungkin kereta beliau bermasalah. Jadi saya memotong kereta tersebut dan memandu sekitar 60km/j dan hon kenderaan belakang berbunyi lagi. Dengan pemanduan defensif, saya mengambil lorong kiri bagi memberi laluan. Kereta saya dihimpit lagi, kali ini saya dimaki hamun. Saya mula mengucapkan ”Astaghfirullah alazim”. Saya membiarkan dan tidak melayan telatah bongkak ini. Lagipun kesalahan saya cuma lambat respon kepada lampu hijau. Kenapalah jadi macam ni? Saya diekori dan dihimpit oleh kereta ini sejauh lebih 7km. Mungkin beliau marah sebab saya tidak memberi sebarang respons dengan sikap agresif tidak bertempat ini. Tiba di satu kawasan beliau terus memaki saya dan bila saya menoleh untuk memberi isyarat badan memohon maaf (saya rasa saya tidak perlu meminta maaf kepada insan bongkak), saya lihat wajah pemandu. Ya Allah pemuda Melayu rupanya! Isyarat badan maaf juga dibalas dengan maki hamun.

Luluh hati bila melihat akhlaq pemuda Melayu ini yang bukan sekadar miskin, mungkin dah jatuh peringkat akhlaq papa kedana! Perkara yang remeh ini buat apalah diperbesarkan. Banyak lagi perkara membina ummah yang perlu difikirkan. Saya maafkan pemuda yang miskin akhlaq ini tapi saya rasa kasihan bagaimana agaknya beliau melayan kedua orangtua yang melahir dan membesarkan beliau?

Mutiara Bicara
Setiap hari fikiran dan emosi kita diganggu oleh insan dan persekitaran negatif. Lebih malang jika unsur negatif ini di lakukan oleh orang-orang Melayu (Islam?). Pemanduan defensif dan aplikasi kecerdikan emosi perlu sentiasa memagari cara kita bertindak. Ianya amat mencabar untuk berlatih bersabar. Moga Allah sentiasa memelihara kita.

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Itulah sebaik-baiknya, memberi kemaafan dan mendoakan agar pemuda tersebut mendapat hidayah Allah s.w.t,dimuliakan akhlaknya & ditinggikan budipkertinya. Itulah doa saya sebagai ibu utk anak-anak setiap kali selesai solah.

Saya percaya tuan pasti membaca doa sebelum menaiki kenderaan. Tambah Ayat 9 surah Yassin agar Allh melindungi diri kita dari kejahatan makluknya samada yang nyata atau yg halus. Wallah hua'lam.

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